Ember
Open Ember
Ember
Open Ember
For the two of you
Each of you fills out a private yes, no, maybe list. Ember finds the overlap and turns it into a menu of nights: loving, erotic, playful, fantasy, kinky, and the ones that go a little past your comfort zone, on purpose.
How it works
Around 250 items across sixteen categories, from slow dancing to rope. Yes, maybe, or no, with giving and receiving asked separately where it matters. Your partner sees nothing until you have both finished.
Once both lists are in, you see everything side by side: the matches, the maybes, and what is off the table. No guessing, no awkward opening line.
Ember builds a shelf of nights from your overlap. Each one has a mood, a length, a prep list, and a plan in phases: set the scene, spark, kindle, blaze, afterglow.
Afterward you each say what you want more of. Anything new you tried gets moved to a yes or a no. The next menu leans toward what worked.
A look inside
Comfort zone, and past it
Every night carries a level. Pick the one that fits the evening.
Built only from things you both said yes to. Nothing to negotiate.
Adds one thing from your shared maybes. Marked clearly, swappable with a tap.
Adds two or three maybes and leans toward what you have never tried. Either of you can swap any of them for something safe, no explanation needed.
A no from either of you is never used. Not at any level, not by accident. Change an answer to no later and that item disappears from every night already on the menu.
Five moods
Slow, close, and all about each other.
Heat, appetite, and wanting each other on purpose.
A story, a premise, a different version of you both.
Power, restraint, and intensity, all agreed in advance.
Games, dares, and laughing in bed.
The details
Massage, oral, restraint, control: each is asked both ways, so a night never assumes which of you is which.
Each night tells you what to have on hand, from candles to a charged toy, before you start.
Put a night on the calendar and anticipation-building hints appear on both your home screens in the days before. The calendar entry just says Ember.
One card at a time in large type, so the phone gets glanced at, not read.
Keep the nights you loved, see how you each rated them, and put them back on the menu.
Choose a mood, a level, and a length, and get a night built to fit.
Discretion
On a home screen it is a small glow called Ember. Nothing more.
Each of you has a PIN. The app locks itself after a few minutes of inactivity and whenever it goes to the background.
Neither of you can see the other's list until both are complete, so you answer for yourself, not for your partner.
Nothing is shared, sold, or used for anything other than building your nights.
Questions
The list is frank and matter-of-fact, because it has to be. The nights themselves are written to be elegant rather than graphic. Nobody will be embarrassed reading it aloud.
That is what the side-by-side view is for. You will see what you share, what one of you is curious about, and what is off the table, which is a far better starting point than a guess. Ember only ever builds from the first two.
Any time. Nights on the menu update to match, and after trying something new you are asked whether it becomes a yes or a no.
Yes. The menu, the nights, and the ratings are shared. Only the list is private, and only until you have both finished it.
It is built for one. Open it in your browser and add it to your home screen; it behaves like an app from there.
It takes about twenty minutes each, and it is the most interesting conversation you will have this month.
Open Ember